When I first found out that we were moving to North Carolina, I was upset. Actually, I was more than upset, I was hysterical, which is huge for me because I rarely cry. (To this day I've only cried during Marley & Me, ONLY once during a movie!) Anyways, I've lived in California for all 25 years of my life, I moved from Orange County to San Diego when I was 19, a HUGE one hour from my parents and family. That move was simple, I knew I could go "home" anytime I wanted!
The NC news brought with it every negative thing I could possibly think of. I was listing shit off left and right as to why I just HAD to stay here. My job, I had a commitment, I couldn't just LEAVE my job, how could I do that? My family, they were here, my nephews, how could I leave them? My dogs, how am I going to find somewhere to live that allows my dogs, I just have to stay, I can't lose them!
It took a while for the news to settle in and for me to realize that moving to North Carolina isn't the end of the world for me. It's North Carolina, not North Korea for god sake, how bad could it be? I realized that I could live anywhere for 2-3 years (the length of our orders) and why not take a chance? I've lived here for 25 years, and part of the excitement of being married to someone in the military is the possibility of where you might go.
I started feeling better about the move, googling things to do, places to see. Realizing that maybe the Pacific Ocean can't offer me all the beauty in life. About 2 weeks ago I finally told the people I worked with, and all of my friends (my close family and friends already knew.) I was shocked, appalled, and basically disgusted with the responses I received. They varied anywhere from "you're going to hate it there" to "ew." Who says ew anymore anyways? It was shocking to me because I thought, why can't people just be happy or excited for me? And if they firmly believe that, why do they feel the need to tell me? Do people not have a filter these days?
I have been receiving nice comments from people and awful comments from people for about 2 weeks now and I'm over it, and I think I've finally realized why, with the help from my mother.
"People who are miserable would love nothing more
than having the happy people in their lives be miserable too."
I get it now. I don't know why, but misery loves company, and I've never really experienced that saying until I broke the news about my move. I now understand it perfectly, and it's actually quite sad to realize that people are so unhappy in their own lives, that they feel the need to put so much negativity into someone elses.
And with that, I'll leave you with my newest favorite saying.
Gidget & Guido
A good attitude is everything. When we got orders to Massachusetts for Recruiting Duty, I thought I was going to die! I mean could the USMC move me any further away from my hometown of San Diego?!?!? Anyways, I hear nothing but bad things about Recruiting Duty and it just motivated me more to make sure that I have a positive outlook on it and don't let those negative nancys bring me down. I think North Carolina sounds like fun and I think you will have a great time while you guys are there.
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